Infidelity Therapy in San Antonio – Finding healing from betrayal trauma
Experiencing a breach of trust in your relationship, like a physical or emotional affair, secret-keeping, or issues related to pornography, can feel incredibly overwhelming.
Despite the pain, healing is possible. Your relationship can mend from these challenges, and we’re here to support you through that process.
The pain of infidelity is weighing you down?
Experiencing infidelity is incredibly tough to bounce back from. It’s a mix of agony—knowing your partner chose someone else—and guilt if you’re the one who cheated. Thoughts of “Is it my fault?” or “Do I deserve this?” might swirl in your head. And if you’ve cheated, the fear of losing your family can be crushing. No matter which side you’re on, it’s a world of pain.
But counseling is a path toward healing these shattered relationships.
Imagine a life where forgiveness is possible, where you’re not always anxious about it happening again. It’s about tackling those doubts caused by infidelity, setting goals together to heal, and building an unbreakable bond. You’ll discover tools to understand your partner better, protect your relationship, and communicate your needs effectively.
It’s about moving ahead with love and compassion, creating a roadmap to a brighter future together.
How did Infidelity happen? What went wrong?
Our therapists believe that when it comes to infidelity it is not one singular moment, we believe that infidelity is a cascade of moments. (Reference: Gottman Institute)
Turning Away
- When one partner starts to ignore or get absorbed in something else, it’s like they’re turning away. This makes the other partner feel rejected.
Negativity and avoidance
- When the partner who’s reaching out holds back their feelings and needs because of the negative reaction they got before.
Investing less and comparing more
- When partners see their relationship positively or feel good about it, they tend to stick around. But if they don’t feel that way, one partner might start comparing their significant other to someone else who might make them feel more special.
Feeling less dependent and making fewer sacrifices
- When a partner starts being less reliable, trust takes a hit. This might prompt the other partner to confide in someone else, making the bad parts of the relationship more obvious.
Trashing vs cherishing
- As attention shifts to the bad stuff, the good things start to fade away.
Resentment and loneliness
- Positive feelings toward your partner can turn sour and bitter over time. This built-up frustration might lead someone to compare their partner to someone who they think could do things better. It can also reduce their desire for intimacy with their partner.
Idealizing alternative relationships
- As someone relies less on their partner, negative thoughts about the relationship become stronger. This creates a barrier, both emotionally and physically, between the partners.
Secrets and crossing boundaries
- A partner might start hiding things, leading to frequent lying. When this occurs, partners start distrusting each other, and betrayal enters the picture.
Our therapists can help
I understand if you feel like there’s no hope after infidelity. At Stone Oak Counselors, our therapists have seen this scenario before and know how to mend and strengthen your relationship.
They’ve mastered powerful techniques for infidelity and marriage counseling. Together, they’ll guide you through these steps, aiding in your recovery from this difficult experience.
The Stone Oak Counselors approach to infidelity counseling
Your relationship counselor will start by meeting both of you together to talk about the infidelity and your relationship goals. Then, they’ll have separate sessions with each of you to discuss details about the affair and your current struggles.
After these chats, your therapist will create a personalized plan to deal with the hurt from the affair. This process helps the hurt partner feel heard, get questions answered, and rebuild trust.
It’s crucial to do this with a trained couple’s therapist to avoid misunderstandings and further harm to the relationship.
Once you’ve processed the initial pain of the affair, you might want to address other issues. Your counselor can then switch to more traditional couple’s therapy.
What is holding you back?
You’ve endured a lot of pain, and the trauma is hard to put into words. Why wait to find healing and hope? Busy schedule? We offer Telehealth visits. If counseling is new, don’t worry! Your first visit with your counselor is about setting goals together and creating a treatment plan to achieve them.
There are several signs you can look for in your relationship that suggest you need professional help with couples counseling. Do you have any of these in your relationship?
- Learn more about our team here.
- Fill out our convenient online contact form for more information.
- Begin the journey to a new, fulfilling relationship.
Other Mental Health Services Offered At Stone Oak Counselors
In addition to offering services for Life Transitions, we also offer a wide range of services for adults, teens, and children. These services include Play Therapy, Teen Counseling, Adult Counseling, Couples Counseling, and Trauma Counseling. Our goal is to meet you where you are and help guide you through the issues you are facing in a positive and supportive way.